82. Crushes are fun and why you should embrace them
Honestly... Crushes are fun. The experience of being attracted to someone and then finding ways to get to know them is a small but gratifying sentiment. It’s like childhood – it’s innocent, it’s silly but in a good way, and maybe it’s a reminder that you’ll never lose your youthful enthusiasm or your childlike wonder. And whether the crush is someone you never knew or someone with whom you’re familiar, all of a sudden this person takes on a whole new meaning. It's kinda cute right?
I used to have this really pessimistic thought about how crushes are formed. Crushes are formed because you like what you see... so far. I was confused on why people just crush randomly on others and it's just a waste of brain space to think of them so highly like that. But I realize that maybe it's better to think of others highly. It's good to have that positive outlook and perspective on that person because you want to do well in front of them. It's not delusional or scary at all. It's just a shift in mindset and honestly if you want to see things in flowery rose-colored glasses (and it helps) then I don't see why not?
I've had discussions with friends on how to handle having a crush, especially a crush that is never going to go anywhere. Maybe the subject of your crush has no interest in you. Maybe it's impossible due to location or the right timing? Perhaps one or both of you are in relationships already and so are unable to explore those feelings.
And most of us agreed on the standard answers, namely just be a grown-up and move on. A crush is a crush. None of us are teenagers anymore.
But who cares? Why not enjoy the crush while it lasts. It's fun being just a touch delusional. It's not hurting anyone (unless you're getting a little bit too invested and attached...). Crushes are fun. Or at least they’re supposed to be fun as long as you keep them that way. As long as you don’t get emotionally invested or fixated or keep imagining your reality to be what it is not.
But if you expect too much or feel too easily, you might end up with self-inflicted heartache which just leaves you feeling empty-handed or just empty inside. And all of this for someone who never even promised you anything from the start.
~ that valentine heart candy that says "crush" is really cute,
<3 K